The wall? Let’s break it down with career coaching.

on BLOG, career, Coaching 5 apr, 2012

Today I present the words with which, a year ago, a coachee started her first career coaching session with me: "Gianfranco, no salary increase neither this year! I always try to make the most of whatever task given to me because I love learning, but the problem are the colleagues, the leaders ... When your face does not reflect the mold, the wall becomes increasingly high. And hard. And any effort or change you do, it's useless, they neither realize it. I feel burnt out."

C. is in her forties, works in a bank and lived with resignation, as a sentence, her label of “underperformer”, her status of “different”, not suitable. She had introjected these definitions, which - very dangerously - even reassured her: after years of mediocre ratings, C. had learned to "use" her label of underperformer (actually confirming it) to avoid unpleasant or stressful tasks, to remain in peace. Obviously, this situation influenced also her private life and her friends began to consider her the "loser", "the one who gave up."

But, unexpectedly, a personal story had shaken his life and now she wanted a help to exit from this personal and professional vicious circle. She did not want to go to a psychologist because she did not feel feel sick, but rather burnt out and deeply demotivated; so she contacted me to experiment the career coaching.

And he had seen well: coaching - and career coaching in particular - is the best discipline to solve these impasses, because it allows the coachee to clarify his values, needs and objectives, to design and plan actions and to quickly evaluate their effects, to replace lucidly existing harmful paradigms with others helpful and positive. And don’t forget that, after long professional and personal stories like that of C., which eliminate the self-esteem and the self-confidence, the individual hardly has the strength to start a radical change on his own and needs a partner who believes deeply in him and teach him to look for or build options and alliances. And the career coach offers all this.

In the case of C., I began to explore the term "burnt out", I asked her what would make turn her on, how she would have described her "turned on mode", how she’d have felt and what she’d have done once “turned on”, what she’d have seen if she had observed herself from the outside, with a “turned on eye”, what solution she’d have looked for... In a few career coaching sessions, C. lost the habit - or the need - to struggle on her situation in her office and learned to imagine herself in motion, in action, building a future of satisfaction, with no more walls to climb or molds to be subjected to. And she discovered that the bank did not interest her and that what made her feel really good was working with children.

How did it end? Last month, C. received a positive performance evaluation. No miracle: for a year she has worked tirelessly on herself, she asked and obtained a transfer to another department, and is keen to start a training, that will, in a few years, to pursue her true passion: opening a kindergarten.

And you? What's your wall? What turns you on? What obstacle do you want to overcome, with the help of coaching?

 

 

 

 

 

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