Success is built in childhood: Decalogue

on BLOG, Career Coaching, Coaching, success 30 apr, 2013

Il successo si costruisce da bambini. Decalogo

In the previous post I talked about the importance of identifying, knowing and asserting our "soft skills" to be able to make our life and work enjoyable and rewarding.

Today I propose a set of guidelines, a “Decalogue”, which I think could be useful to anyone who lives or works with kids. You, in fact, dear reader, can play a key role in the development of these innate skills and, therefore, in the future kid professional choices, so that they can be a source of satisfaction and accomplishment.

I wish you to be your child’s career coach!

FIRST: Read the stories that your child writes and identifies the recurring characters’ occupation.

SECOND: Stimulate your child’s imagination: travel, visit new places, frequent different people, go to museums, zoos, libraries ...

THIRD: Tell him about you and your job, making examples to help him understand your working environment, the type of problems you manage, your role, your colleagues. My wife – manager in a multinational company, in the ice cream market – keeps our daughter informed of new ice cream launches. Myself, I talk to my daughter about coaching and she thinks I'm in between a teacher and Bob the Builder.

FOURTH: Look at your child’s behaviors and desires. My daughter, already when she was two years old, dreamed of speaking English and is proud to already speak three languages. I do not know if she will work as a translator, but I definitely encourage her with private English courses, with books and cartoons in English and French and letting her play with children speaking other languages. I control her and for now she is so happy and we continue in this direction.

FIFTH: Ask for feedback, feedback and even feedback! (Here the coach is playing at home, I know ...). Your friends, your relatives, your colleagues may notice traits or passions that you may underestimate or not see at all. Open yourself to others’ views without closures or censorship: if an adult makes comments on your child, it is for his good, not to replace your figure.

SIXTH: Start your child early in school activities and – I repeat – listen to the suggestions of teachers. The areas in which the child excels and the type of context, the company and the environment he prefers say a lot about the “right place” for him in the future.

SEVENTH: Push him to practice sport and to have gatherings in which he can understand the meaning of life in common, of socialization, of effort, of the value of the result. But without oppressing him: leave him the pleasure related to these activities. Sports and games do not ever need to become a source of condemnation, judgment, blackmail or an irreversible choice.

EIGHTH: Treat your kid as an adult making him visit your office, teaching him order and describing him the occupations of other relatives and friends. But without fantasies, exaggerations, dimples or little voices: children should be able to get a concrete and objective idea of work.

NINTH: Play pretend: to pretend to be a doctor, an explorer, a veterinarian, a cook, a worm, the wind, a leaf ... This helps children developing abstract thinking, lateral thinking, self confidence and training to life.

TENTH: Arguably the most important tip: ENCOURAGE HIM! Support him with positive words, with positive examples, with positive attitudes. Help him to improve and move beyond his own limits, always respecting his age and aspirations. Talk to him about success, life, hope, skills, about the importance of his being exactly as he is, the extent of his innate talents.

And so, I'm sure, your child will be successful in life, at work, everywhere.

What are you waiting for to apply these tips?






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